Tuesday, January 3, 2017

Coffee is the Best Remedy or is it?- What I learned in 2016

With the new year being already three days in, I have reflected on everything I learned in 2016 and what I want to do in 2017. As in my previous post, A new year doesn't mean a new me, I don't change because of the start of the new year. However, I do learn from my past and implement into my future. As many bloggers have been doing, I wanted to share what I learned from 2016 until now and what I hope to do in this year of 2017.

2016 taught me a lot, some bad, but mostly good. I have learned that it isn't always what you see with your eye that is true, but instead it is what you feel in your heart and in your gut. So here are 10 things I learned in 2016.

1) Always listen to the people around you
In 2016, I had people give inputs to many aspects of my life, from my friendships, to dating, to school. I never wanted to listen because I always told myself that unless it happens to me, don't believe it because you never know who the person could truly be, form your own opinions. I learned that maybe it is okay to listen to the people around you because usually they are speaking what your heart and gut are telling you. I lost some friends, gained some, and reconnected with others in 2016. It was the year or friendships for me. I probably would have been able to save myself some pain and fights if I had listened to the people around me, but I wanted to prove them and myself wrong about the people I thought were my friends. In the end they were right, but now I know, listen to those around you because they truly do have your best interests in mind when giving you advice.

2) Coffee might be the next best thing, but Tea is just as great
Throughout 2016 I was in love with coffee like most of America. It was what got me through the day, it was what would help me stay energized throughout school and work. That was until I was introduced to Tea. Starting in the beginning of 2016 I learned that Tea has the right amount of caffeine that I need for me to make it through the day. I didn't completely give up coffee, but it definitely sat on the back burner.

3) Fighting and disagreeing with people doesn't mean the end of a friendship
2016 was the year of finding myself and the person I wanted to be. I used this year to really discover what I wanted out of life and the people I surrounded myself with. This meant that I wasn't always the nicest or most rational person which led to many disagreements with friends. I learned that just because you don't agree with a person and that you may get in a little fight, it doesn't mean that your friendship with them is over. If someone does end a friendship over a minor disagreement then they weren't worth your time or energy as a friend. Now I know who I want to be and who I am and I am not hiding any of that from anyone.

4) Alcohol or Ice Cream can be the cure for anything
In 2016 I turned 21 and it was so much fun. I lived the year doing what any 21 year old does, drink. I learned the kind of drinks I like, what I don't like, what I can pair with what, and what is best all by itself. I constantly was going out to happy hour, bars, clubs, etc. I would break open a bottle of wine or prosecco at home after a long day. I learned that no matter what alcohol cured everything, from heartbreak, to fights, to helping relax after a long day of work. It even helped cure the happy moments of birthdays, holidays, outings, and adventures.

5) Friends will never turn their back
In 2016, I learned that true friends will never turn your back on you. They will be there to celebrate the accomplishments in life, the times that you fall, and the times you don't know which way you are going. They will help from far and near, because distance can't stop your friendship. I learned that friends are just as helpful as family, but they aren't forced to love you and be there, they truly want to. No matter what, they won't turn their back and they will be there through everything.

6) Traveling is the way to grow closer to people
In 2016 I took more trips with my friends than I ever have. We ventured to Vegas twice, San Diego, Anaheim twice, and day trips to many places nearby. By far spending a night in a hotel with your friends is the way to learn so much about them and who they are. It is how you can truly understand their personality. You might fight, but in the end you will have the best time of your life. You will learn so much and you will become the best of friends after it all. It can ruin friendships, but if it does then you didn't need that friend anyways.

7) Family is the remedy for everything
I learned in 2016 that family will never let you down and they will love you no matter what. I spent less time with family in the beginning of 2016 and by the end all I wanted to do was see my family every day instead of my friends. If that was because I wasn't up for socializing or because I truly missed them I don't know. However, spending the time with family allowed me to see what was important in life and who I wanted to be. They are the cure for anything life throws your way and distancing yourself from them allows you to see the true importance of the impact they have in your life.

8) Food is the key to my heart- literally
In 2016 I learned the way to make me happy was food. If you got me food all would be forgiven. We could absolutely hate each other and food would be the way to fix it. That is still the case. If you want to date me, be my friend, or just feel nice, food is the way to my heart.

9) Boys aren't everything
In 2016 I learned that having a boyfriend isn't everything, in fact it is nothing. No one needs a guy in their life to have fun. I definitely learned that through everything, a guy was the last thing I needed. Having the friends I have meant I didn't need someone else. They were enough. They allowed me to see my worth and how strong and independent I am. They allowed me to know that I needed to be my own personal solider and that I am the one that needs to fight for me and only me. No guy will ever amount to the person I am for myself. They just make everything more complicated and different.

10) The future is bright
In 2016 I learned that my future is bright. I learned that I can go somewhere in my life. The future I have ahead of myself is something I can look forward to. I am almost done with school and from there I can go on with my degree. I am ready to see what a new year has to offer me.

Do you have any new years resolutions? What did you learn from 2016?

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